kimberlychapman ([info]kimberlychapman) wrote,
@ 2009-06-21 14:21:00
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Entry tags:education, milestones, peo, smartgirl

Peo's teacher told Corran on Friday that her reading has impressed the older kids at school.

Peo thinks this is great because the big kids praised her...pretty much manna from heaven for a littler kid.

Unfortunately, the teacher also told Corran that some of the older kids were also starting to show signs of competitiveness with Peo over it. Peo hasn't noticed. She's too happy.

Here's to hoping it doesn't go ugly in any way. This teacher is really good at this sort of thing, so we are indeed hopeful.

But when I mentioned it to a knitting friend who works for the local gifted association, there was a lot of nodding and dire hmm-hmming because this can be the precursor for harsh judgment.

And let's be clear about this: nobody said the dreaded G-word to these kids, nobody elevated Peo in any way, nobody did any of those things that the parents of gifted kids get accused of. Heck, Corran and I haven't even met most of these kids, since Peo gets dropped off earlier and picked up later than most. All that happened was Peo read in front of them.



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[info]noiseinmyhead
2009-06-21 08:26 pm UTC (link)
I need to come to your knitting group and learn .....

Good luck with P I wish I had any advice - with any luck she will be happy enough not to notice the competivieness and maybe this will help the older ones learn faster with out hurt feelings anywhere.

I am worried about C - she says she wants to read this summer - work with me on it that is with the Bob books- but I am procrastinating as much as possible- as it is she is doing basic sight reading on signage and my email at times- for all I let her watch TV I leave the captions on so she is seeing it as it is said (some of the times the CCs can be really bad for kids shows) how bored is she gonna be in kinder? how much work am I going to have to do to get her into the language arts and math in first grade while she is technically a kinder gardener? This is preventing me from worrying that G is already so bored his performance is suffering and his delight in his own projects is lessened from this over all hatred of writing as work. Writing as in the physical act of pen to paper - typing is just fine for him but he needs to do better with his hands.....ok there I go again.....

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[info]kimberlychapman
2009-07-24 09:48 pm UTC (link)
Whoa I missed all the replies to this post...

You should totally come to the knitting group and learn. Next mtg is August 1 and I'm planning to be there. It's super-friendly.

We haven't done much directly with Peo's reading that she hasn't demanded of us. She likes the CC on too, which is good since it's frequently already set to that on the TV because of my hearing issues (can't turn it up as loud as I need when she's napping).

But yeah, I have the same worries. A little less so now than 6 months ago because she's getting so much good social education at school, but I worry about what to do when it can't be super-excellent Miss Ginger anymore...

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[info]schedule5
2009-06-21 08:59 pm UTC (link)
Ergh! I HATE that gifted / more than averagely bright girls typically get stomped. I have a good (but frightening) article summarizing research on gifted girls from a local gifted child magazine. Many, probably most, young gifted girls are simply socialized out of any kind of academic achievement, and disappear. Basically, society doesn't reward bright girls. I even find myself making excuses for my daughter: "Yes, she reads - but...". I'm far more likely to tell people about her limitations than the areas she excels in. (Bad, over-socialized mommy! No biscuit!)

At least the teacher is aware of and watching the situation. And that she is keeping you up to date - sounds like she is a good person to be monitoring this.

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[info]kimberlychapman
2009-07-24 09:50 pm UTC (link)
A friend of mine here in town has a very gifted boy and she finds she has to make the same excuses too. Here, I think boys are supposed to only be gifted in sports, especially football. Seriously, a huge percentage of parents keep their boys out of school for as long as possible so they'll be the oldest in their class when they start and therefore bigger and more likely to make the football team later. I am not kidding. And I'm sure it has no bearing on the increasing problems of these middle school points lists where girls earn popularity by performing sex acts on boys. No, not at all...gahhhhhh...

But yes, society certainly doesn't reward smart girls. I experienced that too.

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[info]damedini
2009-06-22 02:44 am UTC (link)
I was a strong reader going into Kindergarten at 4. Happily, my teacher was able to give me work at my level without making it look like I was any different. My first grade teacher, though, was inexperienced...

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[info]kimberlychapman
2009-07-24 09:52 pm UTC (link)
I was reading before school and had a positively miserable time, bored out of my mind, drugged by Ritalin, etc. until I got into the gifted classes. Then I became a hyper-obsessed overachiever. *sigh*

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[info]nightxade
2009-06-22 03:06 pm UTC (link)
Competition is a natural part of our society that some parents promote, intentionally or not. You don't have to mention anything for these kids to start up on their jealousy. I just hope it doesn't ruin the experience for Peo.

The other day, J asked which of our girls I thought would be smarter or more athletic etc. I quickly shushed him because he said it in front of them, though Ivy didn't notice. I told him I won't compare my children. He said that his parents did :( and he noted that I compared my nephews. I pointed out that I never did it in front of them.

Anyway, that's awesome for Peo. There was a little boy in our library reading group who was reading everything at 4. He was with younger kids, so it didn't 'hurt' him, but as with everything our 'smarter' kids do, they are going to have to deal with the bullshit. We just have to make sure our girls never feel embarassed by their advanced skills and knowledge and feel the need to dumb themselves down :(

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[info]kimberlychapman
2009-07-24 09:54 pm UTC (link)
It's hard not to compare kids, or any people. We all know amongst our friends and/or co-workers who is best at what and who sucks at what. And if we could all just see the big picture and recognize that everyone has their good and bad points, and even the seemingly most skilled people can fail and the least can succeed, then we'd all be able to calm down a bit.

Peo has stuff she's not so good at. She'll muddle through that. I am not worried. People think I'm worried when I mention it as a counterpoint to the stuff she's good at, which I only do to indicate the balance of it all.

And sorry for the late comment, I'm digging through email and only remembered this post now...

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